8 Ideas To Avoid the Boring Routine at your Marriage Life
The first few years of a marriage are usually thought to be some sort of
extended honeymoon period, filled with great sex, good communication and
the kind of travel plans
Things are naturally fresh and exciting. Over time, of course, life gets
busy and new becomes routine.
As your relationship grows steadier and
more comfortable, you might start to fear that it is growing a bit too
well-worn—or even a little boring.
Signs of boredom in Marriage
- You don't feel attracted to each-other anymore.
- You don't feel interested in your partner's life, feelings, or interests.
- You don't pay attention to each other as much as you did in the beginning of your relationship.
- Thinking about the future of your relationship makes you feel uncomfortable or unhappy.
- You find spending time with other people more fun and exciting.
- You wish you could change your partner or relationship.
- You feel that you have nothing in common.
- You have a hard time finding things to talk about.
- You don't enjoy spending time together.
- You often feel angry or upset with your partner.
Here're 8 Ideas To Avoid the Boring Routine at your Marriage Life
1- Getting Out of Your Routine
The first thing to do is to start getting a little more extravagant. Stop living 'safe' and saving money and time, and instead start to live a little. If you have this kind of attitude and seize opportunities when they arrive such as going on spontaneous trips or checking out the fun fair that's opened up in the middle of town, then you'll likely find that you start to enjoy life more again – and by doing these things together you create shared experiences and become more like real 'partner's who are experiencing life together as a team. Studies have shown that if you act spontaneously and spend money you shouldn't that you will be more likely to look back on your life favorably than if you live safely and save it for a rainy day.
2- Say No to boredom
There are so many ways so that you will not get bored with your marriage. First on the list is to have a spontaneous date with your husband or wife. An unplanned date can be a sweet surprise for your better-half. This also goes to show that you are still unpredictable after all those years and there's still a lot in you that your husband or wife has to know. Dine in at a local restaurant that you haven't been before. Take a ride to a place over-looking the city or the sunset. Situations like these are the most memorable. However, see to it that the kids, if you do have, are well-taken care of by a nanny, a babysitter or your in-laws.3- Spice it up
Romance is vital in a relationship. Dress up or try positions that you haven't done before. Your partner will eventually change in the course of your married life and so does his sexual preferences. Be updated with the needs of your partner in bed. In order for a couple to have a long-lasting happy married life, there must always be a sexual compatibility between the two. Or else, a third-party will start to appear in the scene.
4- Be Original
The problem with spontaneity and 'mixing it up' is that it can sometimes fell quite forced and quite textbook if you do all the usual things like going out for a meal or wearing a wig in the bedroom. This can feel arbitrary and not particularly romantic. Instead then your branching out needs to reflect you both as a couple – you need to do things that you and she will enjoy and that are different from everyone else. Perhaps this will be a road trip, or perhaps it will mean you try feeding each other with the lights off. Either way make it unique to just the two of you and genuine, and try to be creative with how you spice things up.
5- Keep Things Fresh in Every Area
At the same time it's not just the bedroom where you need to spice things
up, or just in your activities. Make everything a bit different – try
wearing clothes you wouldn't normally do, and try attending a club
together or something. Make changes in your own individual life as well as
a couple and it will bleed into your romantic life. If you've 'stagnated'
somewhat as a couple then you've likely stagnated as individuals too, so
try new things yourself. At the same time as tweaking the little things though, it might be that you can really benefit from tweaking something huge. If things seem to be stagnating maybe it's time to take the relationship to another level by introducing a child for example. Or perhaps just moving house could create a new adventure for you, and by changing your surroundings you can make everything fresh and new.
6- Stay Independent
You also have to be a bit independent. It's important to make sure you
keep doing things on your own as well as a couple. The reason for this is
that it will mean you don't know everything about the other person so that
you have things to talk about still. At the same time it will mean that
you get some time apart and during this time you will hopefully start to
miss your other half. You know what they say – absence makes the heart
grow fonder.
7- Appreciate What You Have
At the same time though, try to learn to appreciate what you've got in
your relationship and maybe try to alter your perception a little. When
you see someone in the street who's dressing sexily, or when you meet
someone a bit flirty you might think that you wish your partner acted more
that way. However the reality is, that while this is nice as a one off and
seems sexy, you actually probably wouldn't be with your partner if they
were more like that. The grass always seems greener on the other side, and
if you changed your partner too much you'd probably find you lost what
made you attracted to them in the first place. Try not to let your mind wander like that then and instead try to remember what it is you find uniquely sexy and exciting about your partner – try to imagine seeing them for the first time and taking a step back to appreciate what you have. Look at the stares you get when you're happy together in public, and try to look at them through fresh eyes. The truth is that we don't really know what we want, and you would likely miss your situation – exactly as it is right now – if it were to go. Spice things up by remembering that spark is there, not by changing your whole dynamic.
8- Space it out!
Don't be too clingy. Give your husband his Free-day and allow your wife to have her day-out with her girlfriends. In this way, you are taking time to miss each other's company.Taking space away from your spouse will allow you to check in on yourself and do things that encourage personal growth and maintain your attraction to your partner. Creating these spaces for you and your partner acknowledges the mutual trust you have for each other, and is an important way to keep the passion burning.
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