The Secret of the Successful Marriage

what is the secret of successful marriage?

if people who think they are falling in love with someone would pay more attention to their actions and not the words they wouldn't miss the telltale signs

if you fail to notice and question the actions of the one you purport to love in the early stage of your relationship then you are deluding yourself into thinking he/she will change later on.they rarely do. and so often, those that ignore the signs and the warning end up getting married ,only to discover later on that the person they married is not who they thought he/she was.

so the best secret to a successful marriage is marrying the right person in the first place.

Taking the time to carefully observe the actions of another person over a period of time tells you a lot more about them than their words ever could.

All too often we hear one of both people in marriage lament to us that if they had only paid attention to the telltale signs, they would not have married the person they married 

Many of these relationships end in divorce.

If you consciously and rationality believe that the words,deeds, and actions of the person you are thinking of marring all jive and are consistent, then your marriage has half a chance at being successful.

in the end, a marriage built in this foundation has reasonable chance of success.

The successful marriage is an accumulation of simple things,and that a good marriage is simple to understand.

so you have to do the simple things each and everyday of your lives together to make it work

Making marriage successful requires hard work. if you base a marriage on a lie - you ignored the actions you were observing in the person you were falling in love with- then all of the simple things required to make a marriage works will more than likely not be enough to carry the day

Pervasive characteristics in people are very real. they define who they are and they almost never change. 

Keep your eyes wide open when you are falling in love. you won't regret later

Final note: never enter a marriage thinking you can ignore the behaviors now and change them later. Too many have fallen prey to this notion. It rarely ever work.