Codependency,symptoms and causes
What is the codependency?
This type of dependency person feels its value by satisfying the needs of the other party, puts the needs of the other party in front of his eyes and is fully occupied with it. A time when he might ignore his personal needs.
What makes a codependent person vulnerable to falling into a toxic relationship with manipulative people, such as a narcissist who is attracted to such a personality in order to gain control and excessive interest with someone who denies himself in favor of the person in control of the relationship
Common symptoms of a Codependent personality include:
Low self-esteem:
Weak boundaries:
The need to "save" others:
Control problems:
What causes a person to become codependent?
Codependency is often rooted in childhood. Often times, the child will grow up in a household where his emotions are ignored or punished. This emotional neglect can lead to low self-esteem and a child's sense of shame. And he may think that his needs are not worth taking care of.
And when one or both of the parents do not perform the roles of the shepherd, and this dysfunction they have is due to addiction or abandonment of the home or disease that hinders him from performing his role. The child may need to perform tasks beyond his or her ability to grow.
Often the line between a child and an adult becomes blurred. If a parent does not play a role, the child may become the pseudo-parent of his siblings. He might change the younger brother's diapers or he might help the sister finish her homework. Sometimes a child is expected to take care of one of his parents.
Parents may teach their children that they become selfish or greedy if they think about themselves. As a result, the child learns to ignore his own needs and only thinks about what he can do to satisfy his parents Since children are not fully grown up, filling the "adult" role can take all their effort.
As a child, codependent behaviors can be essential to survival. In adulthood, the behaviors are not adaptable. In fact, interdependence behavior can prevent a person from developing truly stable, healthy relationships.
So what is the solution?
- Codependents, on their journey to recovery, may need to find a hobby or activity that they enjoy outside of the pattern of only caring about the needs of others.
- The Codependent should try to spend time with supportive family members or friends Individual or group therapy through contact with a specialist psychiatrist is very helpful for people with dependent traits as a psychiatrist can help them find ways to acknowledge and express their feelings that may have been buried since childhood.
- People who have been abused will need to learn about past abuse and start feeling their needs and emotions again.
- Both parties in a relationship of mutual dependence must learn to recognize certain patterns of behavior, such as "the person's need to be needed" and expecting the other person to focus their life around them.
- These steps are not easy to take, but they are well worth the effort to help each-other to discover how to create a balanced relationship with mutual satisfaction and a healthy personal space that allows for independence within that relationship.
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