8 Signs Of A Toxic People And How To Deal With Them

8 Signs Of A Toxic People And How To Deal With Them

Do you know in your relationship circles someone described as a toxic person? At some point in your life, you must have come across someone who fits this description.

Toxic people: 

They are the people who make us feel bad about ourselves. When we spend time with them, we may engage in destructive behaviors. They don't bring out the best in us. These people have toxic effects on all aspects of our lives.

Toxicity in people isn’t considered a mental disorder. But there could be underlying mental problems that cause someone to act in toxic ways, including a personality disorder.

According to Mental Health America, 84% of women and 75% of men report having a toxic friend at some point. About three-quarters of American employees have or have had a toxic boss. 

It is important that we start getting to know these people and set boundaries to improve our mental and physical health. Take the time to learn about the toxic relationships, behaviors, and situations in your life.

Mental Health America identified these eight traits of toxic people:

1.Manipulation.

Toxic people take advantage of their closeness to you and their knowledge of the keys to your weaknesses in order to try to convince you to do what they want. They often twist your words or make you feel guilty for getting what they want. And they may use other people, sons or clergymen, to pressure you. 

 2. Judgmental.

 Everyone can make judgments from time to time, but a toxic person makes judgments almost all times. He only sees things in black and white and criticizes anything he disagrees with or agrees with, rather than taking into account other people's circumstances or feelings.

3- The blame game.

A toxic person will not apologize for the painful situations they put you in. He always finds ways to make you responsible for his actions “Look at what you made me do” “You are responsible for what happens” 

blaming the partner is motivated by incitement to a certain behavior or as a justification for any violence or wrong behavior, rather than taking responsibility for the violence.

4- They do not respect your boundaries 

 Another sign of a toxic person is disrespecting boundaries. If you are clear with someone over and over again about your needs, behaviors or expectations that do not suit you, and they cannot accept or respect your boundaries, they are bad. 

Healthy relationships are built on understanding and the ability to respect boundaries. Toxic people always try to gain advantage and exploit others.

5- They do not apologize.

 They don't see any reason for this, because things are always the result of someone else's fault. In many cases, although they try to organize relationships to serve their own ends and interests, they try to gain sympathy and attention by claiming "victim" status.

6.Passive aggression. 

These behaviors are a way for toxic people to express their displeasure without having a direct conversation about their problems. This type of hostility is less pronounced than open anger, and can be demonstrated in a number of different ways. Some forms of passive aggression include mean comments, sabotaging the efforts of others, and making joke about others or doing nothing to make someone uncomfortable or annoy someone.

7. Controlling. 

One of the most dangerous features of a toxic person is controlling behavior. It may try to restrict you from contacting your friends or family, isolate you from the world, or control your finances, to restrict your ability to interact with the world around you. And they always need him or are under his control.

8. Selfish. 

Toxic people often take care of themselves. They don't think about how their actions affect others and they think they are better than everyone else. A self-centered person focuses on getting what he or she wants and is unlikely to compromise or take into account another person's point of view or needs. He always wants you to be busy serving him, fulfilling his desires, and not paying attention to yourself or taking care of yourself

Detox your relationships

Relationships are complex and it may not be easy to interact with toxic people until you learn from past interactions. I understand that many relationships, especially family relationships, are more difficult because it is not easy to close the door and cut off the relationship with them. 

So you have to take practical steps to detoxify your relationships and help restore your mental and physical health 

The first step is: Identifying toxic influences in your life. If you are feeling bad about yourself as a result of a relationship with someone else, it is time to sit down and evaluate the problem. It may not be possible to change, but you can change.

The next step is : To create the boundaries. Ask yourself, "What do I need to stop or get out of my life?" It could be a person, a behavior, or a situation. What desirable or healthy characteristics do you want more of? What would be unacceptable to you moving forward? 

Weight the positives (if any) and negatives, and make a decision to limit your time with this person or end the relationship - and don't look back.