10 Things Narcissists Don't Want You To Know

Living with a narcissist requires a different or more advanced emotional skill set, and even having a narcissist in your life can be frustrating and emotionally difficult. Where the relationship may always revolve around them. In a way that makes you feel judged and exhausted by their endless demands. Narcissists are the center of their lives. They often think they are perfect and blame others for any Issues that arise in work, home, or social situations, depending on their ability to hide many facts about their hidden intentions and goals from their victims.

In this article, we will uncover ten truths that narcissists don't want you to know. By gaining this knowledge, you can protect yourself from their toxic behaviors and reclaim your own personal power and well-being.

Here're What Narcissists Don't Want You To Know

1- They don't want you to know their true intentions.

who they really are, what they are capable of, and what they have done in the past.In other words, narcissists do not want you to see behind their facade, they want you to see only the facade and accept the facade as the real them.

2- They don’t love you, they love that you adore them.

Expect a narcissist to keep you around as long as you tolerate their need for admiration, pity, attention, and allow them to use you to become a receptacle for all of their toxic energy. If you don’t play by their ever shifting demands, ‘poof’ you will be discarded, forgotten and nothing you’ve ever done for them will be appreciated or remembered.

3-They don't want you to know they are only in it for themselves.

That they are takers and not givers. They try to come across as givers at the beginning, but that is part of their expert ploy to give a little at the beginning, but only take later once you are hooked on them… after they have transformed you into a narc-junkie, their junkie.

4- They don't want you to know that they do not care about you.

They have never cared, and have no ability to care in the future. They do not have access to attributes like emotional/ compassionate empathy - and so are handicapped in the area of giving a f*ck about others. Despite all that, the narcissist will do everything possible to make you think they care, to give them that much more leverage over you.

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5- They don't want you to know that will deliberately gaslight you until you believe you are crazy!

Expect a narcissist to try and convince you that you need them and to believe that they are your rescuer. Expect them to try to cripple you emotionally so you ONLY rely on them and then, when you dare challenge them, you can also expect to have the narcissist marginalize every thought that comes to your mind. Your mind and gut will twist with the fear of losing the one who has rescued you. You will doubt you had a right to question the narcissist at all. If you enjoy mashed potatoes for brains, the narcissist will do the trick.

6- They don't want you to know that fear humiliation and mortification.

Expect the narcissist to be highly sensitive to criticism of any kind. The slightest hint that you have found a weakness in them will cause them to react harshly. You will be punished and persecuted for dare insinuating the narcissist is not perfect or should share blame of any sort. If you love feeling like every thought you think is on trial, this relationship is for you!

7- They don't want you to know that they will fake empathy.

Narcissist will fake empathy when necessary but no, I will not have a true emotional reaction to any pain I may cause you. Expect a narcissist to be callous when it comes to how they treat you. They will not experience cognitive dissonance when they berate you. There will be no conscience to pull their tongue back when they start persecuting you for not anticipating their needs or for daring to challenge them. If you like walking around on eggshells, you’ve hit the jackpot!

8- They don't want you to know that-they intentionally always bring you drama.

Expect drama, chaos, unpredictability, confusion, guilt, shame, betrayal, and crazy behavior. Narcissists cannot regulate themselves emotionally, and because they are worthy, arrogant, and righteous, and lack empathy for others, they are unable to understand that relationships take two fair, caring, and nice people in order to make them run smoothly. They will not see that their negative personality traits are the root of the problem. If you like being blamed for the positive and negative feelings of a great character, you've hit the jackpot!

9- They don't want you to know that  your pain gets them high. 

You are a drug to the narcissist and the narcissist will stop at nothing to feed the addiction. In the beginning, the idealization was enough to get high, but when tolerance builds, they must resort to pain and suffering and that is the reason for the devaluation. It is just another stage in their addiction cycle.

10- A narcissist does not want you to know that they are easily bored.

They are attention seekers. The only way to cover themselves from getting exposed is the love bombing strategy. I try to be nice—get what I want—devalue you and makes you doubt your sanity—then cuddle you on the couch and gives you hot stupid sex—two days after devalue you again— The process goes on and on until you spend some decades with me! All I want is to be in control!