9 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists

9 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists

Living with a narcissist can be difficult, but this dynamic is especially difficult when leaving home is not an option. Effective coping requires an understanding of narcissism, a certain level of acceptance, finding support, and setting firm boundaries. Even though circumstances could seem difficult, you can learn how to keep your emotional wellbeing despite their behavior.

Narcissism is a mental health disorder exhibited primarily through an overinflated ego, disregard for the feelings of others, and belief that one is more important than anyone else. Narcissists love to call attention to themselves and truly believe they are admired and highly esteemed.

These patterns involve at least five of the following, per the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5).

• Needing a lot of admiration
• Having an overblown, grandiose view of oneself
• Obsession with dreams of brilliance, success, power, or ideal love
• Believing they are superior to others and that only people on their level can understand them.
• Arrogance
• Displaying envy
• Lacking empathy and unable to recognize others' needs.
• Having expectations and an attitude of entitlement
• Propensity to exploit.

However, not everyone affected by NPD or narcissistic behaviors will have all of the traits associated with the condition or the same severity. Our understanding of these behavior patterns helps to know how this character thinks; However, there are some things a narcissist doesn't do (regularly).

Sure! Here are 9 things you should avoid doing when dealing with narcissists in your life:

1. Don't try to change them:

Narcissists have a deep-seated belief that they are always right and superior to others. Trying to change their behavior or mindset will likely be futile and may even provoke them.

2. Don't take their behavior personally: 

Narcissists often manipulate and exploit others for their own gain. It's important to remember that their actions and words are not a reflection of your worth or value as a person.

3. Don't engage in power struggles:

Narcissists thrive on dominance and control. Avoid getting caught up in their power games or arguments; it will only escalate the situation and leave you feeling emotionally drained.

4. Don't expect empathy or understanding:

Narcissists struggle to empathize with others because they are primarily focused on their own needs and desires. Don't expect them to understand or genuinely care about your feelings.

5. Don't enable their behavior:

Avoid enabling a narcissist's self-centeredness by constantly meeting their demands or validating their ego. It only reinforces their sense of entitlement and can lead to a toxic and one-sided relationship.

6. Don't rely on them for emotional support: 

Narcissists are not known for their emotional availability or supportiveness. Seek out other sources of emotional support from friends, family, or therapists who can provide a healthier and more reliable outlet.

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7. Don't play the blame game: 

Narcissists are skilled at deflecting blame onto others. Avoid getting caught up in their attempts to shift responsibility and instead focus on your own well-being and personal growth.

8. Expects a genuine apology:

Narcissists rarely take responsibility for their actions. Waiting for them to truly apologize to you is a complete waste of your time. In fact, what is more likely to happen is that they will give you a very convincing fake apology to maintain power and control over you for as long as possible. You should not wait for the narcissist in your life to give you a genuine apology because it keeps you trapped in the cycle of abuse.

9. Don't compromise your boundaries: 

Narcissists tend to have little respect for boundaries and may constantly push them. It's crucial to establish and enforce your boundaries, even if it means limiting contact or distancing yourself from the narcissist.

Remember, you need to be careful when dealing with the narcissist in your life. The best way to protect yourself is to make sure that every decision you make protects your well-being. This is not selfishness, it is self-love. There is a big difference between self-love and selfishness. Always remember that you have the right to protect your thoughts, feelings and emotions from abuse.