5 Signs of Toxic Attachment in Relationships
What is emotional attachment?
When Does Emotional Attachment Become Toxic?
- Toxic emotional attachment occurs when you solely rely on a relationship to define your worth, value, and lovability.
- If you find yourself more depressed and self-critical after ending a relationship, then you may have attributed your self-esteem to being connected with that person. This of course is detrimental because you are giving your personal power away.
- If you stay in a relationship that severely triggers depression, anxiety, past trauma, and overall stress then this is a sign of Toxic emotional attachment.
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Borderline personality disorder
- Compounding of PTSD
As with anything in life, balance is needed. An overly emotional attachment or lack of a healthy emotional attachment is detrimental to your mental health. The key is to find stability in learning your emotional needs and finding healthy ways to fulfill those needs.
The following signs can suggest a potentially toxic level of attachment.
1. You’ve lost your sense of self
When you believe you need someone and can’t live without them, you might find
yourself doing whatever it takes to secure their affection and support
long-term.
Little by little, you might begin modifying your habits,
interests, and behaviors until they align more with those of your partner.
2. Fear of abandonment
Do you often become paralyzed out of fear of being abandoned by your partner?
Do you often feel that your partner will find a better option and leave
you?
This fear will make you do strange things that you had never
imagined before. You turn into a person who satisfies people, and you only
engage in behavior that your partner will appreciate (to offset your fear).
Related: 8 Steps To Fix A Toxic Relationship
3 . You Can’t be Happy Alone
It might be a cliché that we can’t make anyone happy until we’re happy with
ourselves, but it’s also true. We need to feel satisfied with ourselves before
bringing another person into the mix.
If we can’t be happy alone, this
means we may easily develop an unhealthy emotional attachment to fulfill
specific needs. This isn’t fair to ourselves or others.
4 . You are emotionally dependent.
A healthy amount of interdependence is when both partners know they can turn to one another when they need support, but don’t rely solely on each other. They maintain a wide network of people to help them when they’re in need. They enjoy doing things together, but they don’t need to be glued to each other every second of the day
5- You are Rely on their approval
If you struggle with self-validation and self-confidence, your value may be determined by how other people see you. In the case of an unhealthy engagement, your sense of self-worth may completely depend on your partner's respect. When you disagree or face another conflict, it can completely disrupt your perception of yourself.
How to Fix Toxic Emotional Attachment
- Work to devote some time to discovering yourself, so that you can learn about your strengths and weaknesses, and reconnect with your personal identity.
- Make an effort to make time for yourself to do the things you enjoy Your happiness is not related to the presence of a specific person.
- Work on expanding your circle of relationships. And create a balance by building and strengthening positive relationships with friends and family, so that feeling safe does not become dependent on the presence of a romantic partner.
- Setting a strong personal boundaries that enable you to define what you can accept and what does not work for you
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