Feeling that you are unhappy in your marriage and unable to bear more is one of the worst feelings you can feel after years of effort, patience and endurance for the sake of the success of this marriage
Feeling disrespected or emotionally detached from your partner is a miserable way to live, but whether you've been married for two or twenty years, the decision to get a divorce is not an easy one.Common relationship problems occur even in the happiest marriages, but if your minor disagreements turn into resentment, contempt, and an interruption of verbal and intimate communication, it could be a sign that your marriage is over.
Here are some common moments that your relationship go through before divorce,
which are realistic facts for husbands and wives, some of whom moved in the
last moments to save what could be saved and some of them were overwhelmed
by time, as the famous wisdom says
Everybody care when it's too
late
Here are 6 signs your marriage may be over.
1-You Always Thinking About Separating
They started asking themselves, Are they asking for a divorce? Is there still love? What will happen to the children? How do you even start the process? This is when emotions run high and "noisy questions" remain on their minds.
If forgiveness no longer exists and one or both partners maintain mental lists of all of the spouse's mistakes or actions, the gap between them will continue to grow.
When one of you feels upset, so that hurting the other person or bringing out his faults becomes more important than protecting the relationship itself, you look at one of the biggest signs that your marriage has failed.
2- The Blame Game:
When people feel like a team, they have an easier time overcoming obstacles. Now, when every single argument turns into a blame game and both partners point their fingers at the other, the marriage becomes extremely threatening.
The spouses who have a healthy relationship will seek to support, support and build each other, and work to overcome past mistakes, and overcome differences together. In a failed marriage, one or both spouses no longer see any good or commendable personality traits in the other person.
3- No one takes responsibility:
Another sign of the end of a marriage is when the husband or wife refuses to take responsibility for their actions and mistakes. Instead of accepting that they made a mistake and making a conscious effort to implement long-term solutions, the person will find ways to make it the other person's fault.
I did what I see fit
And when stubbornness prevails, there is no place
for friendliness
4- You Don’t Communicate
Having an open style of communication in your relationship is important if you want it to continue healthy. ِAlso, couples who eventually split usually see a breakdown in their communication process.
"Many of my clients talk about how they are no longer communicating fully or effectively (some of them don't communicate at all)
“Communication is really the cornerstone of a successful relationship.” Even if a couple decides to divorce, communication is still necessary especially if there are children.
- Comparisons
- Permanent blame
- Disclaimers of Responsibilities
- Threats and repeated insults
5- Your fights turn into personal critiques.
Even the happiest couples sometimes quarrel. When you are in a
healthy relationship, you must feel that you can express your feelings and
opinions regardless of whether your partner agrees.
“A healthy
relationship is one in which you feel“ safe, ”not only in the physical
sense, but also in the emotional sense.
“If spouses do not know how to argue productively, it is often a major factor in causing a divorce.” Fighting in a productive way means getting together and talking about your problems as a team.
6- Lack of intimacy
Sex may not be everything, but it is an important part of a healthy relationship. Sex helps you strengthen the bond between you and your partner by releasing a chemical called oxytocin into your body. Not only does this enhance feelings of love, but it also acts as a natural stress reliever.
If you have been married for a while, it is natural for your sexuality to find a more stable rhythm than it did when you were together for the first time. But if you:
- The interruption of your sexual relationship
- Not physically attracted to your partner
- Or the relationship occurs sporadically or for long periods
- You feel alienated from the idea of being in an intimate relationship with your partner
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