7 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship
What Is a Toxic Relationship?
In an article published by Elizabeth Scott (a wellness coach specializing
in stress management and quality of life, and the author of "8 Keys to
Stress Management.")
on the Verywellmind website, a toxic relationship was defined as the one that
makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. On a basic
level, any relationship that makes you feel worse rather than better can
become toxic over time.
Toxic relationships can exist in just about any context, from the playground to the boardroom to the bedroom. You may even deal with toxic relationships among your family members.
A relationship is toxic when your well-being is threatened in some way—emotionally, psychologically, and even physically.
Here's what you need to know about toxic relationships, including what
makes a relationship toxic
Signs of a Toxic Relationship:
1. Long-term silence
Sharing ideas is a sign of a healthy relationship because it gives you a
chance to get to know each other. It is normal for couples to stop talking
to each other for a while after a fight. But if your partner believes in
punishing you by using silent treatment for long periods, it is a sign of
bad relationship.
2- Negligence
Abusive partners often ignore affection and physical relationships as a
means of punishing the other party for something. Although consensual
intimacy between spouses is the norm, suppressing any physical emotion can
harm the relationship in the long run.
3- Threat
"I will leave if I do this", "I will ask for a divorce and have children
but i do this" if your partner repeats this way, you are in a troubled
relationship that needs to stop and reconsider.
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4- Harsh criticism
Some life partners resort to showing dissatisfaction with any act as a way
of derogatory the party. It is true that criticism is something that is said
between spouses but not all the time and towards all situations, and the
choice of words that do not injure the partner is a basic criterion for
successful relationships.
5- Control
Some married couples want to watch their partners all the time, calling
them repeatedly throughout the day for no reason, just to make him them
monitored and under control.
He may try to control you by forcing you to break off your relationships
with your friends or even some members of your family. A relationship of
control will take away your sense of freedom or
self-sufficiency.
6- Screaming
When couples fight with each other, respect, which is one of the most
important basics of marriage, deteriorates. Your husband/wife has no right
to subject you to this or any other form of emotional abuse under any
circumstances. If you scream at you for no reason or for small things, it
affects your mental health in the long run.
7- Violating personal boundaries
Every time you reject something and say no, you feel like you are in
battle, the poisonous person does not respect your limits and desires, and
accepts only to agree to everything he wants, and when you refuse leaves you
emotionally exhausted, you feel suspicious and frustrated, which disturbs
your self-confidence, and makes you wonder how strong you are and your value
and appreciation of yourself.
According to Elizabeth, the following steps are effective and very critical in dealing with toxic relationships
- Talk to the other person about what you're witnessing. Be assertive about your needs and feelings while also taking responsibility for your part in the situation.
- Discuss what you see as a problem and decide together if you want to change the dynamic to ensure that both of you get your needs met.
- Re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself: Is this person causing real damage to my self-esteem and overall mental health?
- Limit the time you spend with people who bring frustration or unhappiness into your life. If this person is someone you need to interact with, like a family member or co-worker, you may need to limit interactions.
- If you decide to talk about your concerns, use I statement when describing your feelings and emotions. Doing so helps keep them from feeling defensive.
- Realize that some toxic people simply are unwilling to change—especially those who lack self-awareness or social skills.
- Try to non-confrontationally stand up for yourself when the situation warrants it.
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Verywell Mind
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