The 5 Most Common Types for Narcissistic Blaming Shifting
People with narcissistic personality disorders regularly use blame
shifting to manipulate conflicts within themselves because admitting a mistake
is not an option for them. Here's everything you need to know about
narcissistic blame shifting.
What are the most common techniques for narcissistic blaming shifting ?
1. Playing the victim
Instead of addressing your legitimate concerns, they will bring up something from the past that is completely unrelated to the matter, claiming that you are the one causing the pain. So you become the one who apologizes to them out of guilt.
2. Underestimate your feelings
3. Arguing About the Argument
4. Guilt tripping
Everyone goes through trials and tribulations. But healthy individuals do not use these experiences as excuses to hurt others, and they certainly do not present these stories of compassion to avoid taking responsibility for their behavior easily.
5. False Accusations
This stink bomb is the last resort .Usually when they're caught blatantly or summoned for something they know they've done wrong. (Remember, shyness is an unacceptable sensation for people with narcissistic personality disorders.) So they bring you a terrible and unfounded accusation. Like:
- - You offended me.
- - You hit me - You raped me
- - You cheated on me
- - You never liked me
- - You are mentally sick
- - You are chasing me
Suddenly you are now defending yourself against the wild accusations that you could not even imagine being brought against you. Who could be prepared for that? And again, that's the point. The blame is now far from them, and now you're in hot water. Now you easily find yourself fighting to win your case.
Related: 7 effective ways to deal with Gaslighting
How to Cope with blame shifting?
- When blaming someone turns out like this, there is a (understandable) temptation to explain yourself, defend your name, and prove your point. But the problem is, this is exactly what they want you to do.
- They change the blame so you will respond. So you give them the attention they need. They will always accuse you of doing everything they themselves do because it gets infuriating when you just have to say something. But again, that is the goal.
- By absorbing you in these arguments, they consume your energy and watch that you are gradually destroying yourself, so that they can use your reactions to prove their own points. ("Wow, look how bitter and angry you are!")
- When you try to defend yourself against a false accusation, you legitimize it even by admitting it. The only way to respond to these tactics is to stand up and walk away. Just go away.
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