14 Lies a narcissist Says to keep you Hooked

14 Lies a narcissist Says to keep you Hooked 

Narcissists are highly manipulative and cunning personalities, who know exactly what they need to do in order to force you to stay with them. They will keep you implicated in carefully crafted lies that will keep you trapped even if you are aware of their motives. There are some commonly used phrases or simple words phrased as lies that the narcissist says and uses to confuse their partners. 

When you hear one of these lies, pack up and run away from them as quickly as possible

14 Lies a narcissist Says to keep you under his control

1. “I didn't do that. You're affectionate”

Narcissists will never admit their mistakes and never admit their flaws. They will quickly blame you for keeping themselves clean. If they accept their mistakes, that will prove your judgment was correct and cause you to leave. They use the gas lighting method to make you doubt yourself and drive yourself crazy, and thus you continue to be with them.

 2. "You are like all the other horrible people I've been with!"

Narcissists enjoy making you feel guilty and bad even if you think about letting them go. They drive you to feel like you are making the wrong decision and then regret you being so terrible to them. Basically they behave this way that you have to prove them wrong by holding on to them or becoming a better partner than before.

3. "I can't imagine my life without you.

" Now, that phrase is very difficult to decipher. It can be spoken by someone in a very real sense. How do we understand that it comes from a narcissist? Well, narcissists are not mentally stable beings. They feel no love for you and only use you to their advantage. They will leave you as soon as they're done with you and keep you around because it's easier than finding another victim. 

 4. "Everyone warned me about you, but I didn't believe them."

 In order to fully possess your mind and soul, narcissists will portray themselves as the only person who genuinely cares about you, who you can trust with all your heart, and makes you suspicious of the people around you. They will plant the seeds of doubt and insecurity within you and make you feel vulnerable, and seek their comfort. This statement is the most effective in this case.

5. "I do not understand why you are the only one who does not understand me!"

Another technique of gas lighting, narcissists use this to gain control of your thoughts and actions so that you act according to their desires. If you choose to talk about yourself and stand against them, they will portray you as if you are out of your mind.

6. “You're so sensitive! Stop being overly sensitive like this!”

 This is one of the lies narcissists tell you to try to manipulate your reactions to their actions. This is just another form of gas lightening to modulate your reactions to constant mood swings and manipulations. Since narcissists do not appreciate a negative response to their commands, even if they get on your nerves, they make you feel as though you are overreacting even if it is a justifiable reaction. It will force you to stay when you start to doubt yourself.

7. "I'm amazing!" 

Narcissists will do their best to show the world that they are the best walkers on the planet. They always talk about themselves, flaunt their connections, power and strength, and pretend to be humble to strike a balance. They will portray themselves as the best possible partners, forcing you to doubt your thoughts about letting go.

8. "No, I am better than them." 

The very effective way narcissists capture their victims is to make them believe that they will never find someone better than them. They will talk badly about everyone around you, forcing you to feel like their best. 

 9. "No dear, I promise, this is the last time!" 

This is one of the mythical lies that a narcissist tells to keep you from letting go. At times when narcissists realize that they have spoiled something really bad, they make false promises to persuade you to stay with them. They will promise never to do it again, and then break their vows. Once you accept their apology and when they feel that you will forgive them every time.

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10. “My life was so abusive,

 My ex-partner or one of my family members was a terrible person!” A narcissist always presents himself as the ultimate victim and tells you everything about his trauma and his pitiful past so that you treat him with the utmost care and love. His "painful" life offers him a free way to be a terrible person all the time, thus forcing you to treat him kindly regardless of anything so that you don't look like your predecessors.

11. "It is not my mistake. It is your fault."

 A narcissist will never take responsibility for their actions and you will always be the one at fault for any of their mistakes. So even if he mistreated or mistreated you, he will justify it as your fault, not his fault. He will manipulate you into thinking you are wrong and make you apologize. 

12. "I do this because I care about you." 

This is a very common lie told by a narcissist or even an abuser to give a false sense of comfort to their victims. They pretend they care about your well-being when in reality, they don't. So when you hear this, understand that it is a trick to impress and get your attention.

13. "If I leave, I'll die." 

They emotionally blackmail you or address the rescuer or sympathizer within you to force you to stay with them, because they know that you cannot handle this pain. He will not die and even if he dies, it is not because of you. 

14. My ex-partner is an irreplaceable person 

The Narcissist is always pressuring you through fabricated and fake stories about his lost happiness with his ex-partner and how happy and amazing their lives were together, he wants you to feel jealous and desire to do more in order to gain the status of his former partner.

Now see all the horrific and manipulative lies the narcissist tells their victims to keep them trapped? If you are always on the receiving end of these phrases and lies, get out of the relationship ASAP, and never look back.

Source:

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