10 things that make a narcissist miserable


10 things that make a narcissist miserable 


There is no doubt that your relationship with the narcissist may make you feel miserable and suffocated. You may be spending extra time trying to persuade or satisfy him. You can also dedicate intense energy to maintaining a sense of peace within your relationship. Unfortunately, narcissists often sweep their loved ones into abuse and manipulation. You might think your needs don't matter. You might also suspect if they care about you at all. But what makes them feel afraid? What makes them angry, upset, or upset? How do you make a narcissist miserable? 

10 things that make a narcissist miserable


Let's get into the top 10 things that make a narcissist miserable.


1. Lack of attention.

If the narcissist is not getting enough supply, which means attention that allows him to feel important and present, then emptiness and anxiety begin to emerge from within them. And it is clear. You will notice a stark difference when the narcissist is as high as a kite with enough narcissistic supply (attention) to feed his insecure and demanding ego, and when he is not fed, supply him with how dark and moody he is. This is the danger zone, where a narcissist can turn on you or must abandon the scene, and run to reach the world's much-needed supplies in an attempt to escape the self-destructive inner feelings of the deeply flawed and insecure inner being.


2. The people around them do not believe in their excellence.

Narcissists need people to think that they are special, talented, and informed. They can experience major disappointment in narcissism if someone with more experience and knowledge than they have, gets into a conversation. They may try to take it over or question it and downplay its importance, in order not to allow the other person to speak or change the topic. If this is not possible, they will leave. Then, of course, discredit that person next.


3. Being successful and happy.

Narcissists want to hoard success. They have to be highlighted at all times - if it passes on to someone else for too long, this could indicate personal rejection, and that might seem improbable. After that, narcissists often see their partners or family members as chess pieces. You are the sum total of what you can offer them. It doesn't matter what makes you happy or fulfilled - it's all about how you can help support their victories.

Narcissists don't want to share the stage with you. This could take away their victories. It is important to remember that when a narcissist appears to rejoice in your success. Usually this strategy is just leverage to showcase their uniqueness.

Narcissists, in their opinion, are the ones who should receive all the acclaim, attention and accolades. Jealousy and envy are satisfyingly felt if you receive any recognition. You will likely be punished for pulling the rug from under the narcissist's feet The narcissist believes it should be the center of your being. And how dare you be happy without him. He or she will do anything to eliminate and spoil your good feelings.


4. Others are more attractive than them.

Narcissists, because of their delusional version of the self, believe that they are the most desirable person. If another person appears to attract attention because of their appearance or personality, the narcissist will be angry and try to demean them as much as possible. They may intentionally keep their partners apart from such a person, due to their horrific fears. 

5. Setting boundaries with them.

Narcissists hate borders. They hate to be told what to do, because they feel this is unbearable control. They like to be completely irresponsible to others. Being a strong and decisive person gives them a terrifying horror. Narcissists believe that they should be able to get what they want, when they want, and how they want. And how dare anyone tell them differently!

6: Accountability.

The narcissist thinks it is above reproach. How dare you question the narcissist in any way or shape? They think you're supposed to let them do what they want to do without question. If you question a narcissist, which you will of course, you will encounter extreme defense mechanisms, anger, or abandonment. A narcissist will not tolerate that

Narcissists don’t want you to reflect on yourself or cultivate insight. They want you submissive, weak, and malleable to their needs. They want you focused on how you can improve their life and not vice versa.
Critical thinking threatens narcissists. It’s the first step in decoding delusional behavior. Once they detect that this might be happening, they will engage in all kinds of tactics to manipulate your thought process.


7. Awareness.

Narcissists usually use intense and arrogant language when they speak. It is one of the reasons many narcissists are talented public speakers. They speak with loud emotions designed to grab their audience's attention and grab attention. But if you try to actually follow what they're saying, the words tend to sound blank and flat.

If you try to rid yourself of any fear, guilt, or horror from persecution and begin to see the facts calmly and clearly and bring them to the table, that makes the narcissist incredibly uncomfortable. A narcissist can only manipulate you if you allow them to drag you into the dark. Once you stand tall and honest and stand out things in bright light of exposure, the narcissist will wither just as a vampire does when a big bright light shines on him.

Logic and facts often seem underneath. A narcissist lives in a bubble where all that really matters is how they think and feel. Their point of view is all that matters, and anything that might challenge what is perceived as a threat.

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8. Resist being hoovered by him.

When you know and hold your worth, and no matter what the narcissist is trying to do, you never give up and allow yourself to be a victim again - the narcissist will view that as a huge insult. Why don't you give in to magic anymore? Why do you think you deserve the best or that you can live without them? All of these questions plague and terribly haunt the narcissist, stripping him of his self-importance.

9. Ignoring.

There is an incredible ego injury that occurs to a narcissist when he is ignored. When you become "fear resistant" as a result of efforts to consciously and work on your inner self so that you have no internal emotional triggers, you are no longer interested in delusions and power games. You will detach and refuse to feed them anymore. Without your fear, anxiety, and heartbreak as energy to continue your strength and harm you, the narcissist's fuel runs out. He or she feels helpless and makes sure that you cannot be affected anymore. The narcissist will and must take their ugliness and manipulation to someone else to get fed

10. To Thrive after breaking up with him.

It's the biggest insult to the narcissist that you were able to let go of, rebuild your life, move forward, and create more success and happiness for yourself than ever before. The narcissist believed it should have been affected forever, completely destroyed and desecrated for life. It makes him feel very important! The cool thing about this community is that these ancient consequences (irreversible personal devastation), which unfortunately have often been the case for people who have experienced narcissistic abuse, are now a thing of the past.

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