10 things that make a narcissist miserable
There is no doubt that your relationship with the narcissist may make you feel
miserable and suffocated. You may be spending extra time trying to persuade or
satisfy him. You can also dedicate intense energy to maintaining a sense of
peace within your relationship. Unfortunately, narcissists often sweep their
loved ones into abuse and manipulation. You might think your needs don't
matter. You might also suspect if they care about you at all. But what makes
them feel afraid? What makes them angry, upset, or upset? How do you make a
narcissist miserable?
Let's get into the top 10 things that make a narcissist miserable.
1. Lack of attention.
If the narcissist is not getting enough supply, which means attention that
allows him to feel important and present, then emptiness and anxiety begin to
emerge from within them. And it is clear. You will notice a stark difference
when the narcissist is as high as a kite with enough narcissistic supply
(attention) to feed his insecure and demanding ego, and when he is not fed,
supply him with how dark and moody he is. This is the danger zone, where a
narcissist can turn on you or must abandon the scene, and run to reach the
world's much-needed supplies in an attempt to escape the self-destructive
inner feelings of the deeply flawed and insecure inner being.
2. The people around them do not believe in their excellence.
Narcissists need people to think that they are special, talented, and
informed. They can experience major disappointment in narcissism if someone
with more experience and knowledge than they have, gets into a conversation.
They may try to take it over or question it and downplay its importance, in
order not to allow the other person to speak or change the topic. If this is
not possible, they will leave. Then, of course, discredit that person next.
3. Being successful and happy.
Narcissists want to hoard success. They have to be highlighted at all times -
if it passes on to someone else for too long, this could indicate personal
rejection, and that might seem improbable. After that, narcissists often see
their partners or family members as chess pieces. You are the sum total of
what you can offer them. It doesn't matter what makes you happy or fulfilled -
it's all about how you can help support their victories.
Narcissists don't want to share the stage with you. This could take away
their victories. It is important to remember that when a narcissist appears to
rejoice in your success. Usually this strategy is just leverage to showcase
their uniqueness.
Narcissists, in their opinion, are the ones who should receive all the
acclaim, attention and accolades. Jealousy and envy are satisfyingly felt if
you receive any recognition. You will likely be punished for pulling the rug
from under the narcissist's feet The narcissist believes it should be the
center of your being. And how dare you be happy without him. He or she will do
anything to eliminate and spoil your good feelings.
4. Others are more attractive than them.
Narcissists, because of their delusional version of the self, believe that
they are the most desirable person. If another person appears to attract
attention because of their appearance or personality, the narcissist will be
angry and try to demean them as much as possible. They may intentionally keep
their partners apart from such a person, due to their horrific fears.
5. Setting boundaries with them.
Narcissists hate borders. They hate to be told what to do, because they feel
this is unbearable control. They like to be completely irresponsible to
others. Being a strong and decisive person gives them a terrifying horror.
Narcissists believe that they should be able to get what they want, when they
want, and how they want. And how dare anyone tell them differently!
6: Accountability.
The narcissist thinks it is above reproach. How dare you question the
narcissist in any way or shape? They think you're supposed to let them do what
they want to do without question. If you question a narcissist, which you will
of course, you will encounter extreme defense mechanisms, anger, or
abandonment. A narcissist will not tolerate that
Narcissists don’t want you to reflect on yourself or cultivate insight. They
want you submissive, weak, and malleable to their needs. They want you focused
on how you can improve their life and not vice versa.
Critical thinking
threatens narcissists. It’s the first step in decoding delusional behavior.
Once they detect that this might be happening, they will engage in all kinds
of tactics to manipulate your thought process.
7. Awareness.
Narcissists usually use intense and arrogant language when they speak. It is
one of the reasons many narcissists are talented public speakers. They speak
with loud emotions designed to grab their audience's attention and grab
attention. But if you try to actually follow what they're saying, the words
tend to sound blank and flat.
If you try to rid yourself of any fear, guilt, or horror from persecution and
begin to see the facts calmly and clearly and bring them to the table, that
makes the narcissist incredibly uncomfortable. A narcissist can only
manipulate you if you allow them to drag you into the dark. Once you stand
tall and honest and stand out things in bright light of exposure, the
narcissist will wither just as a vampire does when a big bright light shines
on him.
Logic and facts often seem underneath. A narcissist lives in a bubble where
all that really matters is how they think and feel. Their point of view is
all that matters, and anything that might challenge what is perceived as a
threat.
8. Resist being hoovered by him.
When you know and hold your worth, and no matter what the narcissist is trying
to do, you never give up and allow yourself to be a victim again - the
narcissist will view that as a huge insult. Why don't you give in to magic
anymore? Why do you think you deserve the best or that you can live without
them? All of these questions plague and terribly haunt the narcissist,
stripping him of his self-importance.
9. Ignoring.
There is an incredible ego injury that occurs to a narcissist when he is
ignored. When you become "fear resistant" as a result of efforts to
consciously and work on your inner self so that you have no internal emotional
triggers, you are no longer interested in delusions and power games. You will
detach and refuse to feed them anymore. Without your fear, anxiety, and
heartbreak as energy to continue your strength and harm you, the narcissist's
fuel runs out. He or she feels helpless and makes sure that you cannot be
affected anymore. The narcissist will and must take their ugliness and
manipulation to someone else to get fed
10. To Thrive after breaking up with him.
It's the biggest insult to the narcissist that you were able to let go of,
rebuild your life, move forward, and create more success and happiness for
yourself than ever before. The narcissist believed it should have been
affected forever, completely destroyed and desecrated for life. It makes him
feel very important! The cool thing about this community is that these ancient
consequences (irreversible personal devastation), which unfortunately have
often been the case for people who have experienced narcissistic abuse, are
now a thing of the past.
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