7 Common Mistakes You Need To avoid after Breakup with Toxic Person

7 Common Mistakes You Need To avoid after Breakup with Toxic Person

It is common knowledge that some mistakes are meant to be made: we learn and evolve by doing and correcting mistakes.

Mistakes let you know what doesn’t work and give you the opportunity to re-evaluate and take another approach.
Or they brutally show us their negative consequences so we avoid making them in the future (putting your hand on a hot stove, for example).

Breaking up with a toxic person e is an embarrassing and overwhelmingly uncomfortable experience because there is no perfect way to deal with the post-relationship phase. No matter what you say or how you say it, feelings will hurt. Broken people sometimes make irrational mistakes that they later regret. Therefore, it is always better to act calmly and try to see the bright side. However,

Your body, mind and soul have been crushed by this person who doesn’t even respect you enough to never show his face in your life again.

He’s probably still popping up somewhere around you just to make it harder for you. That’s exactly what a toxic person would do. Toxic relationships are the worst.

There are so many mistakes that people make after a breakup with toxic person . The pain and change that happens quickly after breakup often throws people off balance so that they do things that they might not otherwise do.
And those mistakes can cause huge problems your self-esteem.

Trying not to make them will allow the healing to start sooner so that you can get on with your life and be happy.

Here are 7 Common Mistakes You Need To avoid after Breakup with Toxic Person

1. Negative self-talk. 

One of the most common things people do after getting rejected is to be hard on themselves. You might find yourself listing all your shortcomings, faults, and inadequacies; calling yourself names; chastising yourself in other ways; or recalling other rejections or failures from your past. Remember that your ego and self esteem are already hurting—don’t make it worse. Using negative self-talk after a painful rejection is akin to breaking your leg and then deciding to hit it with a hammer. Be as compassionate toward yourself as you would be to a friend whose heart had just been broken.

2. Idealizing the person who dumped you. 

One of the tasks of getting over someone is to take them off the pedestal and de-idealize both them and the relationship. If the person broke your heart, either they and/or the relationship simply were not as amazing as you thought. Therefore, you have to change your perceptions of who the person was to realistically include the various flaws and character defects they displayed during the breakup process. Romanticizing the person even further and dwelling on the good times will only make it harder and more painful to deal with the reality of the breakup.

3.Emotional withdrawal.

Emotional withdrawal will happen after any breakup of a significant attachment. Emotional withdrawal includes intense feelings of depression, anxiety, fear, irritability, and confusion. Physical symptoms such as fatigue and loss of appetite can accompany these feelings.

It’s normal to feel this way for a period of time. Leaving or being left is difficult, but it will inevitably pass and you will begin to feel better.

The time needed to recover is different for everyone, but if it continues for what seems like an excessively long time or if the reaction seems extreme, you will likely benefit from professional help. Usually, there are factors that make certain people more vulnerable to the loss of relationships. If they have been emotionally dependent on their partner or have low self-esteem, breakups can be more difficult.

4. Keeping painful reminders around you.

It’s tempting to keep reminders of the person or relationship around you—photographs, mementos, social-media messages, gifts—remember that such items are also a vivid and constant reminder of the relationship and as such can also be very painful. While it might not be necessary to purge every reminder of the person, give thought to whether having such items around is preventing you from moving on, and to the extent to which it might be best to remove them from view.

5.Rebounds.

Getting into a relationship with someone new right after a breakup to fill up the void is not a good idea. This will only complicate things. This may be good for you after a while, but not once your relationship is over. Rebound relationships usually form right after the person ends another, more serious relationship. ”Often times, this person is still attached to their ex and has not yet gripped the breakup and has not yet gotten over the loss of their former partner.

” In general, it is advised not to date too quickly. After a breakup, especially if you are just looking for a new partner to avoid thinking about your ex. “It can be difficult to bond emotionally with a new partner when you are still grieving after losing your old partner.” “You may not be able to really give this new person a chance. In addition, you may feel sad and needy, so you choose someone out of comfort rather than choosing them out of a place of love, distinction, and strength. '

6 – Staying in contact.

Have you and your ex agreed to ‘be friends?’ Do you want to set an example for other people that people can break up and remain friends? Good for you but, I am afraid, it’s mostly impossible to do so.

Stop all possible contact with the person. You don’t need to be friends with them. If you truly want to end this partnership, you need to say goodbye to your toxic friend or partner for good. That means unfriending them from social media, blocking or deleting their number, and removing any connection you may have with them.

Yes, this will be hard to do, but the only way you’ll be able to move forward is if you focus on yourself 

and your own thoughts, and not on theirs.

7. Stalking on social media.

People stalk their ex because they "want to see if their ex is happier without them or dating someone (and comparing themselves to this person),"
It can become addicting that you keep checking their social media,. “You won't be able to move forward fully until you stop looking,

Checking their social media might be unhealthy. You will prevent yourself from moving forward. You are showering on your happiness. You will spend time thinking about all the "good" times when in reality you must focus on other parts of your life. You misinterpret the comments or likes and then create all of these scenarios for why you broke up with you. It is toxic. Remove from friends, unfollow or ban. You need to stop yourself from sabotaging your progress. Allow yourself to move forward so you can become the better version of yourself!