5 Ways to Spot Your Emotional Triggers & How To Deal With Them

5 Ways to Spot Your Emotional Triggers & How To Deal With Them

Have you noticed how certain topics evoke a variety of emotions in you? Mainly unpleasant ones. Some may make you angry or envious. Guilty or sad. Or, unlike your friends or close ones, it really annoys you when people ask you about some personal issues. For some, it's questions or conversations about money; For others, it's romantic relationships. to others, read or receive the news of the Post; and so on and so on.

Often, feelings of anger, sadness, or envy can generate a strong sense of shame. Shame that we don't live up to our expectations or the expectations of others Whatever "theme" or "theme" is fueling these unpleasant feelings within you, it is important to put the shame aside. Embrace vulnerability and really ask ourselves: “What makes me so angry about this person’s experiences or opportunities?” If we allow ourselves to ask this question, we can begin to identify our emotional triggers.

What is an emotional trigger? 

Emotional triggers are words, events, memories, or other stimuli that cause strong emotional reactions. They can remind you of a traumatic event or experience and elicit an emotional response in the here and now. These responses may lead to unhelpful behaviors, such as being overly aggressive. Or they may cause a cycle of negative thoughts. It depends on the person and his experience.

Examples of emotional triggers.

Triggers come in different shapes, sizes, and situations. They can be people, places, words, smells, or even colours.

It is very important to realize when you are in an exciting situation. Some common trigger situations might look like this: 

• Being rejected (like after a breakup)
• Being treated unfairly (megalomaniac boss at work, anyone?)
• Having your beliefs or ideologies challenged
• Losing your independence
• Feeling unwanted (or on the opposite end of the spectrum, feeling smothered)
• Being ignored or excluded by people
• Losing control (of a situation or just more generally in life)
• Feeling we are controlled, such as when someone is making decisions for us or is telling us what to do or feel
• Feeling taken advantage of, such as when someone fails to pay us back on a loan
• Feeling vulnerable, such as when we’re in a situation in which we feel exposed
• Relationship experiences, such as when we’re lonely or feeling smothered
• Boundary concerns, such as when someone is coming at us while drunk or disrespecting our space
• Feeling uncomfortable about what is happening, such as when we witness someone being hurt or when someone’s words or actions disagree with our values
• Fearing what might happen, such as when a threat appears imminent

Symptoms of emotional triggers

Despite what Descartes might tell you (if he's not, you know, dead and such), mind and body are not separate. It's a firm pack, like the Olsen or The Rock twins and baby oil. Emotional stimuli can produce physical effects in the body. They may resemble symptoms of anxiety disorders, which include:

• increased heart rate
• upset stomach
• feeling dizzy or sick
• trembling or shaking
• sweating
• muscle tension

If you experience any of these symptoms (or any other), try to step back and evaluate the situation. You can use these physical effects as a warning sign that something isn't quite right.

How to deal with emotional triggers

When we can identify what's bothering us, we can take action to protect our mental health. Although we cannot avoid all situations that may trigger us emotionally, we can take practical steps to take care of ourselves and develop a strong inner voice to help guide us through these uncomfortable situations.

These are some tools to help us respond, rather than react, to our own triggers.

1-Name It.

Discovering his name means freedom from his threats. Similarly, we can keep a written list of the names of the operators that are familiar to us and that are often repeated. These can be specific people, words, places, or behaviors. Looking for our triggers makes us ready for them. Then we respond consciously rather than acting on the reaction.

2- Find the source. 

Identifying the source of the triggering reaction - a specific event or trauma - is key to freeing ourselves from it. Triggers based on past trauma show us where the past invades the present. But it also allows us to look directly into the hidden world we are in. When I pinpoint where the trigger in myself comes from, for example, I've noticed that I can usually reduce its size significantly.

3- Don't fight your inner voice. 

If you are provoked by an inner critic, do not respond with an opposing opinion - this reaction will only start an argument with the power of its training and its only task to frustrate you. Instead, try using your inner critic's voice as a bell to announce that it's time for a break. 

It can remind you to spread a self-care practice, such as the affirmation: I trust myself to do my best. This also works when you start obsessing over anxiety: I trust myself to handle whatever happens. Then these inner voices can become tools to help us evolve.

4- Communicate.

When someone else's actions trigger your feelings, opening up may help you avoid a similar situation with them in the future. Take a minute to find your calm, if necessary, and then try to use I-phrases and other healthy communication skills to address the situation: Instead of slamming your desk drawer and yelling, "Where did you put my duct tape?" Try saying calmly, “I get frustrated when you take my things without asking and don't return them. 

In some cases, it may be helpful to challenge the other person to practice better communication. If silent treatment, passive-aggressive behavior, or unkind or sarcastic remarks are emotional triggers for you, try a polite, "What's on your mind?" or "Sorry, I'm not sure what you mean by that."

5- Talk to the therapist.

Sometimes, the trauma you experienced in the past can be so deeply ingrained that it is impossible to find the cause without the help of a specialist. This is where the wizard comes in. It can help you understand your emotional triggers, and give you personalized ways to cope. It won't be for everyone, but speaking up can really help. 

Especially with someone trained to understand your thoughts and feelings. If you find yourself struggling to regulate your feelings in everyday life, don't be afraid to speak with your doctor. You may be dealing with PTSD or another mental health condition, and they can help you find a diagnosis.

Sources:
greatist.com/identifying-emotional-triggers
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