5 Reasons Why Empaths Attract Toxic People

5 Reasons Why Empaths Attract Toxic People 

Do you often feel a deep concern for the feelings of the people around you? Do crowds make you uncomfortable? Would you describe yourself (or the people closest to you) as a sensitive person? If so, you may be sympathetic.

Empaths are highly sensitive individuals, with a keen ability to sense what the people around them are thinking and feeling. Psychologists may use the term empathy to describe a person who experiences a great deal of empathy, often to the point of enduring the pain of others at their own expense.

Dr. Judith Orloff, a pioneer in the field, describes empaths as those who absorb the world's joys and stresses like "emotional sponges." In her book The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, she points out that empathy lacks the filters most people use to protect themselves from over-stimulation and can only absorb surrounding feelings and energies, whether they are good, bad, or something in between. She also listed in her book her most important traits in empathy.

Why Empaths Attracts Toxic People. 

1- They Take responsibility for the actions of others.

Empathy can go as far as an apology when he's not wrong. When an empath sees an expression of anger in the other person's face, They feels that the fault is from them (sympathy). In short, most of the time, when people know you're empathetic, they'll intentionally go wrong sometimes, yet claim they're right, because they know you can't survive the atmosphere of trouble. They know sympathizers who yearn for peace and yearn for it with all their being.

2- Empaths tend to hijack other people's problems.

Having this innate desire to make sure others are happy, empaths can go so far as to buy your problem and hang it all around them. At school, you sometimes see them running to make sure other people's tasks are done. They even cheat in exam halls just for others to pass, putting themselves at risk for others' sake.

3-They are attracted to broken people.

Every action and movement of the empath's character always sends the message that they are very open to helping others. Perhaps in meetings or when there is a gathering, the way they talk or contribute to the meeting tends to be very gentle and protective. If deliberations are made to punish a person, person, or person who has sinned, the words spoken by sympathy are words of penance; They try to protect the person(s) who broke the rule(s). This is how they empathize.

Some empaths may feel some physical symptoms that coincide with what others are going through. For example in a movie scene, if someone is being bullied, or there is extreme violence, the empathetic person may break down into tears, or even leave the room to avoid the scene where someone is in pain knowing they can't help.

4- They think that others are as decent, good, and just as they are.

Empaths trust people as easily as anything else. They think everyone else has as good intentions as they do. This makes them virtually trust anyone they meet. This gets worse when a person is shaping up to be excellent at first.

Empaths are often convinced of the first approach; They do not take the time to examine the authenticity of the people they meet. They are not looking for fake friends; They believe that everyone comes for good. That's why, most of the time, they end up in shock when they understand that a toxic person has taken advantage of their kindness. They feel they can solve every problem. Empaths drop a lot of responsibilities on themselves, even those that are beyond their capacity. They are very worried about fixing it, but when they reach the point of submission, they break themselves hard.

5- Empath are givers.

We can say that givers attract takers. Just like the rule of physics which states that "like terms repel, unlike terms attract". This is absolutely true when it comes to why empaths attract toxic people.

Narcissists, for example, are attracted to people they will get the greatest use from. Often, this means they pursue and target empaths.

Empaths are "emotional sponges," who can absorb feelings from other people very easily. This makes them them very attractive to narcissists, because they see someone who will fulfill their every need in a selfless way.

What narcissists see in empaths is a giving, loving person who is going to try and be devoted to you and love you and listen to you," she said. "But unfortunately empaths are attracted to narcissists, because at first this is about a false self. Narcissists present a false self, where they can seem charming and intelligent, and even giving, until you don't do things their way, and then they get cold, withholding and punishing."

So How To Deal with Toxic people:

1. Prioritize Self Care

2. Don't Take it Personal & its not your fault

3. Set clear boundaries

4. Find a support system