How To Disarm A Narcissist

How To Disarm A Narcissist

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, lack of empathy for others and a need for admiration. A narcissist will often display arrogance, superiority and a sense of entitlement.

There are two types of narcissism: overt or covert. An overt narcissist is someone who openly displays their grandiose behavior and expects others to admire them for it; they are easily offended when this does not happen (e.g., Kanye West). Covert narcissists may appear humble on the surface but inside they feel entitled to special treatment because they view themselves as superior beings who deserve adoration from everyone else around them (e.g., Tiger Woods).

The causes of narcissism are still being debated among psychologists, but some research suggests that it's linked with low self-esteem coupled with high levels of insecurity--two factors that lead people into believing they're better than everyone else around them so that their fragile ego won't get hurt again in future situations where someone might criticize them or tell them otherwise.

The Effect of Narcissism

Narcissism is a personality trait that can have an impact on your relationships, mental health and the workplace.

It is a personality trait that can have an impact on your relationships, mental health, and workplace. It is important to note that not all narcissists are dangerous people; They simply have traits that make them more likely to engage in certain behaviors that satisfy their ego or their need to appear and control. For example, someone who scores high on measures of narcissism may feel worthy or superior to others, but also be very successful at what they do professionally because of their confidence and determination. . However, when these traits become extreme (and/or combined with other psychiatric disorders) they can lead to harmful behaviors such as manipulation or aggression towards others—particularly if these individuals justify their image of themselves as being "above" others in some way.

Symptoms

• According to Mayo Clinic, there are many symptoms that show that a person suffers from narcissistic personality disorder:
• Have an unreasonably high sense of self-importance and require constant, excessive admiration.
• Feel that they deserve privileges and special treatment.
• Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements.
• Make achievements and talents seem bigger than they are.
• Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.
• Believe they are superior to others and can only spend time with or be understood by equally special people.
• Be critical of and look down on people they feel are not important.
• Expect special favors and expect other people to do what they want without questioning them.
• Take advantage of others to get what they want.
• Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others.
• Be envious of others and believe others envy them.
• Behave in an arrogant way, brag a lot and come across as conceited.
• Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office.

Tips for Dealing with Narcissistic Person

• Setting a clear Boundaries. Be clear about your boundaries. It may upset or disappoint the narcissist, but that’s OK. Remember, it’s not your job to control that person’s emotions, Perlin says.
• Create a support system. Make sure you have a core group of people in your life that can support you.
•  Build your self-esteem. Building your self-esteem can make it much easier to handle and cope with some of the potentially harmful behaviors you may encounter when maintaining a relationship with someone with NPD.
• Engaging in positive self-talk, practicing self-care, and finding a healthy support system can help you develop resilience and foster your self-esteem.
• Having higher self-esteem can also make it easier to set clear boundaries, be assertive, and advocate for yourself, all of which are key to maintaining a relationship with someone with NPD.

• Be assertive, when necessary, by standing up for yourself in a calm manner rather than letting them walk all over you or manipulate others into doing things for them instead of doing them yourself.
• Avoid arguments. When you're dealing with a narcissist, it's easy to get into arguments and feel like you're not being heard. In fact, this is one of their favorite tactics because it gives them the opportunity to be right and make themselves look good while making you look bad--and they love doing both!
• Learn how to listen more effectively by paying attention to what they say as well as how they say it; this will help you understand where they're coming from (or at least give you some insight into their motives).

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How to Disarm a Narcissist

1- Understand their motivations. 

Narcissists are driven by a need for power and control, which means that they will often try to manipulate you into doing things that benefit them. They may use guilt or other tactics to get what they want from you, but if you know what motivates them, it's easier for you to resist their efforts at manipulation.

2. Don't feed their ego.

Surely, you've been to the zoo and seen the signs that you shouldn't go near "wild" animals? Well, narcissists are a lot like those caged wild animals. They look fine behind a fence and this fence gives you a false sense of security. Don't be fooled. You can't feed the animals of an open zoo because they can be just as unpredictable as a narcissist except for his "wild" side in his ego. Remember that narcissists have an impressive sense of self, and when you receive many verbal compliments to that ego. You are strengthening this weak, unstable mind. while feeding his ego, he hears no praise; He hears how much better than you. If you don't feed the bear, he won't have the energy to attack your confidence later.

3- avoid conflict whenever possible

Try as much as possible to avoid conflict when dealing with narcissists who tend to aggressive behavior patterns such as yelling or creating drama when upset about something happening around them; Instead, try to use silence or a gray rock method that denies them any emotional interaction on your part instead of reacting immediately towards the angry response pattern they use it to further manipulate you.