6 Things To Know Before Making A Decision Regarding An Abusive Relationship
If you are in an abusive relationship, why not leave?
This is the question many people ask when they know that the victim is suffering from for being battered or abused. But if you are in an abusive or a toxic relationship such as the relationship with the narcissist or other psychopath, then you know that it is not so simple. Ending a toxic relationship is not easy. It is even more difficult when you are isolated from your family and friends, subjected to psychological manipulation, financially controlled, and physically threatened.
If you are confused about whether to stay or leave, you may feel overwhelmed, uncertain, fearful and torn apart. You may still be hoping your situation will change or fear your partner's reaction if he finds out that you are trying to leave.
If you are being abused, remember:
- You are not responsible for being battered or abused
- You are not the cause of your partner's abusive behavior.
- You deserve to be treated with respect.
- You deserve a safe and happy life.
- Your children deserve a safe and happy life.
- You are not alone. There are people waiting to help.
Decision Making Regarding An Abusive Relationship
1- If you were hoping that your abusive partner would change ... the abuse is likely to continue.
2- If you think that you can help the abuser in the same way as you do ... the abuse will not end
3- If your partner has promised to stop the abuse ... when faced with the consequences , he may manipulate you
Abusers often demand another opportunity, beg for forgiveness, and promise change. They may even mean what they say at the moment, but their real goal is to maintain control and keep you from leaving. Most of the time, they quickly revert to their abusive behavior once you forgive them and they are no longer worried that you will leave.
4- Be careful even if your partner is in counseling or a behavior
modification program
5- Do not let fear limit your decision
6- Be fully aware of the signs that show if your partner has changed
or not.
- He minimizes the abuse or denies how serious it really was.
- He continues to blame others for his behavior.
- He claims that you’re the one who is abusive.
- He pressures you to go to couple’s counseling.
- He tells you that you owe him another chance.
- You have to push him to stay in treatment.
- He says that he can’t change unless you stay with him and support him.
- He tries to get sympathy from you, your children, or your family and friends.
- He expects something from you in exchange for getting help.
- He pressures you to make decisions about the relationship.
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