6 Ways to Spot A Passive Aggressive Narcissist

                

6 Ways to Spot A Passive Aggressive Narcissist 

Narcissistic personality disorder

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as "a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a profound need for admiration. People with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they are superior to others and care less about the feelings of others. But behind this mask of overconfidence lies a fragile self-esteem." And subject to the slightest amount of criticism. "

Covert narcissism usually includes fewer outward signs of "classic" NPD. People still meet the diagnostic criteria but have traits not normally associated with narcissism, such as: 

• Shy 
• Humility 
• Sensitivity to what other people think of them

People with subtle narcissism may make dismissive or sarcastic remarks and act as if they are beyond criticism. But internally, they may feel empty, humiliated, or angry. Criticism threatens their idealistic view of themselves. When they receive criticism instead of admiration, they can take it very hard. People with subtle narcissism may not discuss these feelings of envy outwardly, but they may express bitterness or resentment when they are not getting what they think they deserve.

Passive aggressiveness 

One of the reasons passive-aggressive people are clever and outspoken is their fear of conflict and they will try to avoid it at all costs. They are very angry people deep down, which is a result of their inability to not know how to deal with their emotions. So anger ends and never resolves, but builds up within, leading to manipulation as a means of force to "portray" themselves as calm.

It is imperative to know that during their childhood they were not encouraged to display anger and when they did they were subjected to severe humiliation by one or both parents. Therefore, dealing with all these unresolved emotions is difficult for them because they don't know how to do it. So the way they get to know how to deal with it is completely detached from them.

It is important to note that not all passive aggressive individuals are narcissists. 

What defines a passive-aggressive narcissist is their hardly convincing sense of superiority, vanity, and entitlement. They tend to be secretly hostile when they're not getting what they want, no matter how unreasonable it is. If the world does not revolve around them (as they think they deserve), they will devise numerous disruptive schemes to make the lives of those around them miserable.

How do you know that you are dealing with a negative-aggressive narcissist? 

Here are seven telltale signs, with references from my books, How to Successfully Deal with Narcissists and How to Successfully Deal with Passive-Aggressive People. When a passive-aggressive narcissist does not get what he wants, he is likely to instigate one or more of the following crimes, while remaining unaware (or unconcerned) of how his behavior will affect others. Passive-aggressive behavior can include:

• 1. Sabotaging someone's work or friendships, and intentionally undermining tasks, projects, activities, deadlines, or agreements. Causing material damage or loss. Over-spending 

• 2. Teasing or Mocking remarks framed in jokes

• 3. Masked verbal hostility, examples: Negative gossip. Habitual criticism of ideas, circumstances and expectations. Address an adult like a child. Invalidate other people's experiences and feelings.

• 4. The silent treatment Shifting hidden blame that makes others feel bad or wonder what really happened 

• 5. Procrastination with tasks that they consider less than their capabilities

• 6-blaming: Blaming others for irresponsibility, negligence, or failure in order to distort and deceive the truth. And avoid responsibility. Manipulating the facts of the case. Distorted perception to facilitate persuasion and control. Gas lighting. Misleading direction to divert focus from the real issue