7 Mind Games The Narcissist Use It To Manipulate You
It is important to realize whether you are in a real relationship or if the other person is manipulating you, using various mental games to feed their ego.Narcissists in particular are people who often engage in a pattern of manipulative, abusive, and manipulative mental games to get what they want in relationships.
Narcissists look for specific things from a relationship that do not include love or intimacy. They often use relationships as a way to boost their ego or the low self-esteem within them. Practicing mental games during relationships allows narcissists to successfully satisfy their ego without any commitment.
All of this may seem harmless enough, but the goal is to manipulate you into thinking you owe them something. "Most often, love is bombed by a narcissist with the intent of attracting and controlling the person being bombarded in love."
So what are the mental games that the narcissist uses in the next stages in order to enhance his control and exploit his victims?
1. The fear game.
2. The "threat to leave" game.
They knows very well that you will not leave and that they will not leave either. They persistence of such threats will eventually make you refrain from telling him how you are feeling so that you are not a cause of ruining the relationship. Well, you just fell into his trap and are right where thy wants you to be. Congratulations! You are now a victim of the mind games that narcissists play
3. The victim's Role game.
Dr. Joseph Borgo, Author of the book Building Self-Confidence and the Narcissist "Emphasizes: Since narcissists lack true self-esteem, they often resort to self-pity as an alternative. Feeling sorry for yourself because you are a victim makes you the mistreated and misunderstood protagonist in a story revolving around you.
4. A divide and conquer game.
Well, after you become a couple, your friends or close members who you have may have opinions opposing your choice or criticize your partner a lot. Some might say they are a hateful person or deceive you into making you fall in love. Even though you know your friends care about you, you find yourself holding back and ignoring their warnings to you just because you love your narcissist.
Also, he may turn the conflict into a deeper level, when he shows to your friends and relatives how unhappy he is about your behavior with him and that they have to intervene to advise you or warn about your worrisome behavior and thus succeed in creating a gap between you and them. Unfortunately, as a result of you becoming in love with him and fear of losing him, you will yield to his threats and implement what he asks for from you, and with the passage of time you will find yourself isolated from the world.
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5 - Hoovering Game.
6. Delusion and denial.
This is what in psychology is called an illusion of truth effect, The illusion of truth effect, also known as the illusion of truth, describes how when we hear the same misinformation repeated over and over again, we often think it is true. Worryingly, this happens even when people must know better - that is, when people first know that misinformation is wrong.
7. Hot potato game
This phrase is taken from Dr. Craig Malkins' book, Rethinking Narcissism, not only is the narcissist denying that he feels not angry when his jaw is tight, his face is red, and his arms are folded tightly against his chest, but Hell continues to return what he feels to you. But he will not leave it at this point;
He'll accuse you of being angry all the time, yelling at you about how tired of the same old feud, and guess what will happen? Sure, if he pushes you hard enough, he will get angry and you are now making him a victim and telling you that he's tired of your anger. In the best possible scenario for a narcissist, you will end up apologizing to him
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