5 Ways To Get Revenge On A Narcissist

You've been hurt by a narcissist and want to retaliate. That's very understandable.

You want to beat them at their own game and turn the tables on them. You want to irritate them, get revenge on them, and break them the way they attempted to break you.

Revenge is good, but only when that revenge does not take you down to the narcissist level or puts your future or life at risk. The kind of revenge that I’m talking about is healthy revenge. The kind of revenge that makes you feel better by doing nothing harmful to the narcissist directly.

Below Are 5 Ways To Get Revenge On A Narcissist

1- Take away their authority.

When they're in charge of a situation, narcissists feel safe. They are always seeking validation and approval, and they are afraid of strong persons and authoritative figures who can offer (or not give) it to them. Take command of your interactions with a narcissist by being aggressive, maintaining strong eye contact, and speaking clearly. Narcissists are truly miserable when others speak out for themselves.

When you play the position of a superior rather than an equal, you're more likely to acquire a narcissist's regard.

Position yourself as a leader on a work team, in a group project, or on a planning committee for added impact. The narcissist will be intimidated and enraged by your status.

2- Go "no contact."

When people cease paying them attention, narcissists become anxious. They'll never understand why someone would reject or dismiss them because they believe they are perfect. Avoid interacting with or speaking to them in public by not answering their calls, messages, or DMs. When they realise they can't get an emotional response from you anytime they want, they'll feel discouraged.

When you ignore a narcissist, they will make repeated attempts to contact you. It may be entertaining to see them struggle at first, but the longer you wait, their words will become uglier and more nasty.
If your goal is to break off your relationship with the narcissist entirely, this is the best route to go.

3-Make their actions known in public.

A great response to a narcissist's actions is to shatter their public image. Call them out when they lie or gaslight you in front of others. "You'll go to any length to make yourself appear right," say. Call them out again when they lie to defend themselves ("See? You're doing it again."). When others understand their grandiose and self-victimizing assertions are incorrect, the narcissist will feel humiliated.

To humiliate you back, the narcissist would do or say anything. Expect insults and false statements about you.Narcissists are charming, and others who weren't present could not believe what they saw. That will be used by the narcissist to "prove" that you are insane.

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4-Success in the areas they desire to control.

Because of their urge to be the best, narcissists are afraid of direct competition. They want others to feel less competent, capable, skillful, or valued than them, which is why they try so hard to knock people down. Refuse to be intimidated by them, and shut them down by excelling them in a highly valued area:

At work, this could mean getting a promotion ahead of them or being named employee of the month.

This might appear like getting better grades in school.

You can network with more powerful people, acquire a greater social media following, and build stronger relationships than them in your personal or social life.

5- Make them to feel jealous of you.

It takes very little to turn a narcissist green with envy. The simplest method is to give them attention (which is what they crave) and then take it away. Start a discussion with them, then shift your attention to a different friend or colleague—the narcissist will spiral and strive desperately to replenish their supply of compliments and attention back.

If you're dating or flirting with a narcissist, this is really powerful. To trigger the narcissist's insecurities, gently touch another person's arm or commend another person in front of them.

Narcissists are particularly envious of those who have self-assurance and emotional intelligence (both of which they crave but don't know how to obtain). Make them jealous of your social skills and excellent personal relationships.

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