7 Things You Should Never Do When You're Around Toxic People

Are you tired of dealing with negative, toxic people in your life? It can be a challenge to navigate these relationships without compromising your own well-being. If you have a hard time dealing with someone in your life, it’s helpful to start by pinpointing problematic behaviors, rather than simply labeling them as being toxic. That's why we've compiled a list of seven things you should never do when you're around toxic people. From avoiding arguments to setting boundaries, our tips will help you stay sane and centered when dealing with negativity. So, sit back, grab a cup of tea, and let's dive into the world of toxic relationships together!

What is a toxic person?

A toxic person is someone who is anyone whose behavior adds negativity and upset to your life. They are often critical, judgmental, and destructive. They may be manipulative or have a victim mentality. Toxic people can be difficult to be around and can drain your energy. It is important to protect yourself from these types of people. Toxicity in people isn’t considered a mental disorder. But there could be underlying mental problems that cause someone to act in toxic ways, including a personality disorder.

What are the signs of a toxic relationship?

There are many signs that can indicate you are in a toxic relationship.

If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner.
If you constantly feel manipulated, controlled, or belittled.
Feeling isolated from friends and family,
Having your self-esteem gradually eroded,
You keep waiting/hoping for them to change.
Your partner is constantly stonewalling you.
You often feel worse when you’re with them.
Your partner is always offering "constructive criticism"…even when you don’t ask.
Always making excuses for your partner's bad behavior.

If you are in a toxic relationship, it is important to seek help from a trusted friend or family member, or from a professional counselor or therapist.

Here're 7 Things You Should Never Do When You're Around Toxic People.

It can be easy to get caught up in the drama of toxic people. They may be friends, family, or co-workers, but they always seem to bring negativity, toxicity into your life. Here are some things you should never do when you are around toxic people:

1. Don't engage in gossip.

Gossiping about others is a favorite pastime of toxic people. They love to tear others down and make themselves feel better in the process. If you engage in gossip with them, you are just as guilty as they are.

2. Don't give them attention.

Toxic people thrive on attention, whether it is positive or negative. By giving them your attention, you are only feeding their ego. Ignoring them is the best way to deal with them.

3. Don't let them control you.

Toxic people often try to control those around them. They may do this through manipulation, guilt, or intimidation. Don't let them have power over you and don't allow yourself to be controlled by their negativity.

4. Don't take their bait.

Toxic people love to argue and debate just for the sake of arguing. They will often try to bait you into an argument so they can feel superior and have the upper hand. Just walk away and don't take the bait!

5. Don't put up with their BS.

Toxic people will often say or do hurtful things without any regard for how it makes you feel. They may call you names, put you down, or insist on telling you all of their secrets. If you allow this behavior, you are only rewarding them. Stand up to them and tell them how you feel.

6. Don't get drawn in.

It can be tough to deal with someone's toxic behaviors. The person may always have something to say about how others are being treated unfairly, or they may even accuse you of doing them wrong or not caring about their needs. Avoid the urge to join in their whining or come up with excuses to justify yourself. Instead, say, "I'm sorry you feel that way," and then end the conversation there.

7. Don’t get personal

It's better to keep interactions with the other person superficial. “Be clear about how you are and aren’t willing to engage,”

Toxic behavior can involve gossiping, oversharing personal details, or using personal information to provoke reactions. If you know someone who does these things, keep your conversations light and insignificant. Shut down attempts at prying or oversharing with, “Actually, I prefer not to talk about my relationship at work.”

When you can’t avoid the person

You still have options if you are unable to entirely avoid or reduce the amount of time you spend with someone.

Set boundaries.

Boundaries are necessary, determining what you will and won't tolerate is a necessary step in setting boundaries. Maintain these boundaries and make sure they are understood.

Perhaps you don't mind hearing your coworker's dramatic story, even those that are blatantly made up. However, you have a limit for verbal abuse or rumors.

Say, "Like I said, I'm not interested in this type of conversation," when they start making fun of a different coworker. If you can, attempt to leave the room or try wearing headphones.

Have an Exit Plan

" will deter enquiring or oversharing. You could be concerned that leaving sounds impolite if you're in a poisonous conversation and can't see a way out, especially if you're speaking to a supervisor.

But you can certainly go in a respectful manner. If it helps, think about creating a few ready-made sentences that you can use when necessary.

Consult a therapist.

If you must continue to be in contact with the person, think about seeking a mental health professional's assistance. Therapists are skilled at guiding clients through such challenges and can provide compassionate, judgement-free support tailored to your needs.

Change your routine.

Are you constantly interrupted when studying or delayed on your way to work by a family member? Perhaps one of the coworkers often complains during lunch about how poorly everyone treats them.

Ideally, they'd abide by the boundaries you impose, but this isn't always the case. Even if it might not seem fair that you are the one who has to make a change, it's frequently worthwhile for your personal wellbeing.

Changing your routine can help you avoid getting sucked into conversations you'd rather skip. Try eating lunch somewhere by the break room, wearing headphones, or reading a book. Avoiding family members may be more difficult. Try to have a respectful but firm conversation about the need to focus on your studies. If you're on your way out, practice the quick exit strategy: "Sorry, I'm late!"

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Ali Mousa Relationship Blogger & writer