8 Evasion Tactics Narcissists Use To Avoid Responsibility
Why do narcissists evade accountability. ?
Narcissists will be gladly responsible for things they see as worthwhile,
especially when it provides an opportunity to be the center of attention.
However, when others place the responsibility on the narcissist, the
narcissist sees this as an attempt to control them. This violates one of their
personal spells: Nobody will have power over them. So they are running away
from all responsibility.
Here are 8 Evasion Tactics Narcissists Use To Avoid Responsibility
1. Argue / Exhaust.
This is the simplest tactic with great instant results. When confronted, the
narcissist chooses one of the little details and argues with it to a myriad
degree. If the other person argues, he chooses another small point and
constantly weakens his opponent. Tired, frustrated, and upset, the other
person gives up narcissistic assumption of responsibility.
2. Intimidation / blame.
The narcissist starts bullying the person trying to hold him or her
responsible. Often they resort to nouns and belittles to assert dominance over
the other person. Once a dependent position is created, they blame the person
for trying to make the narcissist appear less than superior.
3. Accusing/Projecting.
To circumvent any accountability, the narcissist preempts the attack by
accusing someone else. They usually choose someone who is overly responsible
and dependent on the narcissist. Then the narcissist offers the things they
are tolerating to the other person. Thus the escape before the attack.
4. Fear/Avoidance.
Narcissists have the ability to take a persons small fear and turn it into
paranoia. Their charisma is put to destructive uses as they weave a believable
story with an intense dreadful outcome. Once the other person is frightened,
the narcissist uses the other persons terror as justification for avoiding
responsibility. They often cite that the other person is reactionary and
therefore any requests from the other person should be discounted.
5. Rescue/Retreat.
This tactic is the most manipulative of the bunch. First, the narcissist
rescues the other person from a dreadful situation. Having gained the other
persons loyalty, the narcissist waits. Eventually, the other person confronts
the narcissist about a lack of responsibility and then the narcissist
retreats. The withholding of love/attention/time is so dramatic that the other
person becomes horrified and assumes responsibility so that the narcissist
will return. Once secured, the narcissist then accuses the other person of not
appreciating the rescue. The other person feels bad and succumbs to the wishes
of the narcissist even further.
6. Deny/Rewrite.
One way of avoiding responsibility is for the narcissist to deny they have
any. Even if the item is written down, the narcissist will make excuses and
rewrite history. Frequently they take the victim role by saying they were
forced into being held accountable when in actuality they willingly did so.
This tactic often leaves the other person questioning themselves and their
memory.
7.Divert/Attack.
This method begins with an outburst over something very insignificant. Then,
the narcissist exaggerates the point to incite the other person and draw their
attention away from what really is happening. Whenever the narcissist is
fueling a small fire, it is to keep the focus off the inferno somewhere else.
The diversion is done to drain resources, energy, and time so the narcissist
can attack when the other person is vulnerable.
8. Plays victim.
By painting themselves as the victim or innocent in all aspects a narcissist
gains pity and uses this tool to gain control. Narcissists are actors and one
of the award-winning roles they play is ‘victim’, while in truth they are
abusing, confusing, wreaking havoc, mistreating, torturing the ones that love
them. Often offended by someone telling them the truth a narcissist will act
like a trapped animal and lash out to defend the role of victim
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