5 Positive Sides To The Narcissists
Is there is any positive side to the narcissist person
Narcissism is getting a lot of attention these days. Where many authors and researchers have written, about the negative characteristics of narcissism, and the harm they often inflict on others as a result of what distinguishes the narcissistic personality from self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding
At the same time, some scholars and writers have identified certain aspects of narcissistic behavior that are, at least in the short-term and in limited ways, beneficial.
What's the positive side of a narcissist?
1- Over-achievement.
"My accomplishments are everything." That's what a narcissist believes. "My husband has always wanted people to see him as successful, strong, and worthy of envy, no matter how shaky his real life may be," says one wife. Some narcissists have a lot to prove (to themselves and others), and they may try their best to achieve more. They gravitate toward careers and endeavors that provide a sense of power, prestige, recognition, and/or material success. Whereas non-narcissistic achievers typically achieve through talent, skill, and hard work, and are led by a standard of objective excellence, narcissistic achievers are driven by the desire to be “superior,” “one of a kind,” and “impressive.” They desperately want to feel self-important. , so that they are "above the others".
Arguably, perhaps the best thing about narcissistic overachieving is that it’s better than underachieving, at least in certain situations. Some higher functioning narcissists do produce results and “climb to the top,” though often in a conceited and haughty manner, and at the expense of using others.
But narcissistic over-achievement elicits some of the worst traits of narcissism, including grandiosity, selfishness, vanity, false superiority, affectation, arrogance, and contempt. The narcissist's identity becomes filled with and inseparable from the superficial external ego, at great expense of neglecting the psychologically injured inner self. Many narcissists believe that if they weren't "special," they wouldn't be one (unlike). They are incapable of being 'mere human'.
2. Persuasion
Many narcissists also have a way with words. They are often adept at persuading others to do things their way, or giving them the resources they need. High-functioning narcissists, in particular, may advance to certain positions in life because of their ability to influence. As with magic and charisma, there is nothing inherently wrong with being a persuasive individual, as long as it is done in a positive, constructive, and conscientious manner.
Persuasion is a social influence that most people engage in. The downside: Persuasion without regard for others' thoughts, feelings, and priorities becomes manipulation, exploitation, and coercion. Examples of narcissistic manipulation include (but are not limited to) insincere flattery, vanity and ego appeals, lying, exaggeration, false promises, excuse making, blaming, stumbling over guilt, mixed messages, peer pressure, social exclusion, silent treatment, withholding intimacy and the victim. For narcissists, the most destructive consequence of negative manipulation is that, over time, they leave behind many burnt bridges and broken relationships, leading to a loss of trust and respect. The narcissist becomes an outcast in the eyes of many, toxic and discredited.
3. Breaking Rule
"Rules have to be broken - that's how you win." ― What Narcissus also believes is that “rules must be broken” is a mantra for many narcissists, who are fond of testing and breaking boundaries almost wherever they go. There are times when breaking the rules is actually a positive thing, especially in scenarios where old practices are no longer effective, or hinder progress. In this way, breaking the rules in certain situations may encourage new and better ways of doing things, and provide a fresh perspective.
Unfortunately, breaking narcissistic rules is not often to improve a situation, or improve an issue, but rather a purely selfish gain for the offender. Examples of narcissistic rule-breaking include cutting in class, chronic under-tipping, snooping on personal space, borrowing items without returning, using others' property without asking, stealing office supplies, disobeying traffic laws, breaking multiple appointments, and breaking important promises. Such violations of bounds presuppose a twisted sense of entitlement and privilege, With a narrow, selfish orientation that ignores and marginalizes others. All too often, the negative consequence of breaking the chain rules catches up with the narcissist at the end, plunging him into hot water. In severe cases, violation of pathological rules can lead to serious domestic, financial, occupational, and/or legal problems.
4- Helping others
Grandiose narcissists have great entitlement, yet they can also display positive social behavior, helping others in certain circumstances. Narcissists may use help as a way to boost their egos but in different ways (eg either for self-enhancement or social approval). You find them obsessed with publishing pictures and videos of them during the opening of a charitable institution, providing financial support to an orphanage, or donating some equipment to a children's hospital.
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5- Excessive attention-seeking
The desire for attention, rewards, and validation is not narcissistic in nature. We all need to feel heard and have a sense of belonging. But narcissists crave this attention like an addict in need of fixing. Narcissists will deliberately find or create situations in which they are regularly the center of attention. Narcissists are never satisfied - no matter how much attention they receive, it will never be enough.
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