5 Forms Of Denial Narcissist Use To Manipulate You
Denial
One of the most important defense mechanisms is "denial". but this is not unconscious denial, such as not realizing that you have been abused, or that you are addicted, or avoiding facing hard facts. This is conscious denial to disavow knowledge of promises, agreements, and behavior. Troubled personalities often use denial (i.e., unwillingness to admit their mistake) as a tactic to pretend innocence, and to control others
Narcissists Denying to protect themselves from feelings of inferiority and shame, narcissists must always deny their shortcomings, cruelties, and mistakes. Often, they will do so by projecting their own faults on to others.
Even if you show them clear evidence of something they did, they will deny it or say they don't remember it. They will say you got it wrong and they will rewrite the account of what they meant. In the process, they own nothing about it
- They will never take ownership of their actions !
- They will always blame someone else !
- They will always play the victim !
And don't be fooled by any supposed apology!!! You are being controlled and
manipulated!! It's just another tactic they use!.They have no shame or guilt
for everything they do!!
They are bothered by self-destruction and will
frustrate as many of them as possible!!
- I've never said anything like that.
- You are very dramatic.
- You always misunderstand me
- This is not what I meant.
- I'm just trying to help/protect you.
- You think about everything.
- I think you should calm down, you are hypersensitive.
- Why don't you just believe me?
- I did it for your own good.
- How come you are allowed to react like this but I am not?
Denial includes:
1- Dismissal:
2- Justification:
3- Minimizing:
Read Also: Dehumanization: A Mechanism For Narcissists To Mistreat& Manipulate Others
4- Reversal:
5- Play Victim Role
Related Article: 5 Ways A Narcissist Uses To Project Himself As A Victim
How To Handle The Narcissist Denial
1- Set healthy boundaries
By pointing out their hurtful or dysfunctional behavior, you are damaging
their self-image of perfection. Try to deliver your message calmly,
respectfully, and as gently as possible. Focus on how their behavior makes
you feel, rather than on their motivations and intentions. If they respond
with anger and defensiveness, try to remain calm. Walk away if need be and
revisit the conversation later.
Follow up with any consequences
specified. If you back down, you’re sending the message that you don’t need
to be taken seriously.
2- Don’t take things personally
To protect themselves from feelings of inferiority and shame, narcissists must always deny their shortcomings, cruelties, and mistakes. Often, they will do so by projecting their own faults on to others. It’s very upsetting to get blamed for something that’s not your fault or be characterized with negative traits you don’t possess. But as difficult as it may be, try not to take it personally. It really isn’t about you.
3- Don’t buy into the narcissist’s version of who you are.
4- Don’t argue with a narcissist.
5- Know yourself.
6- Let go of the need for approval.
To Control You
Sources
helpguide.org/articles/narcissistic-personality-disorder
psychcentral.com/blog/narcissists-responsibility
psychologytoday.com/denial-in-the-narcissistic-mind-pathological-distortion
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